He can tell a tale

Wheat, Can't Wash it Off (click on "radio one" then the "can't wash it off" link)

I was surprised and very, very pleased to discover today my beau has the gift for writing. I randomly emailed him a list of vacation spots yesterday and suggested maybe the Columbia one would be great for bikini wearing.

He sent me this lovely email as a reply:

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OK...I could do Columbia.

We know the language enough to pass for gringos who try to be polite and not butcher the mother tongue of the natives.

Hummm.....envisioning a private beach we discover on an afternoon walk...it's breezy and slightly cool, partly cloudy with sunshine predicted for later in the day.

We pack a light snack, local fruit, and water.  Eager to explore, we come across a hidden, pristine grotto where a waterfall and freshwater finally meet the ocean.

Deciding that swimsuits aren't necessary, we wade into the 4 ft deep pool in the middle and enjoy massaging each other's backs in the tepid water.  We progress toward the waterfall and sit under the downflow it produces, feeling the pressure hit our bodies while holding each other close.

Seeing a recessed area behind the waterfall, I take your hand and lead you to a soft beach spot right there. We share the tropical fruit we brought, each feeding the other sensually.  Laying you down on your back while I kiss and lick every inch of your beautiful bronzed body, you writhe in joy while I ever so gently bring you to a magnificent climax as we make love to celebrate our passion and discovery!  Exhausted, we fall asleep to the sound of the waterfall, waking hours later to walk back to our private cabana then slowing down to watch an unforgettable sunset off in the distance as seagulls pass by, marking the end of another day in paradise.

After another nap, we shower and dress for a night of dinner with strong tropical drinks.  Later the band sets up and we enjoy romantic slow dancing to native love songs played by a live band...a sortof cross between Marley, Elbow and Finger Eleven! Holding each other close, we stumble back to our cabana, fall into bed, sound asleep in each other's arms, smartly leaving the 'Do Not Disturb' sign outside our door along with the signed menu of our favorite morning breakfast treats, chai tea, coffee and juice to be served via room service around 11AM. 

You like ?  : )
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 Mmmm, I like. I like very, very much.

Letter to friends and family

Paralyzer "I'm not paralyzed but I seem to be struck by you"

6/22/10
"I wanted to let you know I met a really nice guy named D from my online dating profile and we've decided to date exclusively. Yes I know it's sudden, but I have done a lot of work to prepare a "List" of what I am looking for in a person. He fits every item on my list, and it's not a short list.  We've hung out quite a bit already and I haven't felt the awkwardness or anxiousness that I was dreading with the "dating" scene. We totally skipped right past that. It's fantastic and comfortable and he puts me at ease.

I don't think that I need to force myself to "experience dating" and all the ups and downs and anxiety, expense, loneliness and frustration (from what I've been told) that comes along with it. I think I have found someone that I am SUPER comfortable with, feel like I can be myself with and really enjoy being around and thus don't really feel like I need to put that aside just to say "I've dated."

He has been divorced for 9 years, he's 49 and has a 19 year old son. He gets what it means to be a parent and that I am not available when I have the kids. I don't plan to introduce them anytime soon. I'll see how things go with D and me first.

I wanted to keep you all posted on my happenin's. I am sure you'll be hearing more about D in the future. He's great and I really like him. Roomie has met him several times and agrees with me. She's also let him know that he's got "precious cargo" and needs to take care.

This Sunday while we were watching soccer I met a friend of his (who told D while I was in the bathroom, "she's a keeper, don't let her go")."


Until I acquire photos of our exciting evening and bedroom activities, I'll add another photo from San Carlos.
Happy HNT and be sure to stop by Osbasso to see who else is playing!

Check "yes" or "no"

Cooler than the flipside of my pillow, that's right.

Wow, I just don't even know where to begin. Last I wrote I mentioned D and how we had clicked immediately,  he stayed over, etc. We spent the next 3 days together as time permitted and it continued to feel very much the same way. As if I had known him for a year and there was no need for the awkardness or anxiousness that I was dreading with the "dating" scene. We totally skipped right past that. It's fantastic and comfortable and he puts me at ease.

Then Wednesday rolled around and he requested a "breather" because I had my kids and he needed to "evalute if his thoughts matched his emotions." He was trying to figure out if we are a good match.

This was an ENTIRELY appropriate way to proceed, I mean realistically I am not available during that time frame anyway, right? I've got my kids, I can't go out with someone when I have them, and he knew that. So, why did I convince myself in 3 days that he didn't want to see me anymore? Well because I am silly and overthought it and needed Roomie to help put things in perspective. She was going out of town to the lake over the weekend and we sat and chatted while she packed on Thursday night. She reminded me that there was NO indication on his part that he didn't want to see me anymore, he was just as smitten with me as I was with him and YES she was sure he would be coming over and spending the night on Saturday. I said, well, when you explain it like that, I realize I am being a bit silly. Just making up stories in my head. Which is easy to do when you're as tired as I was (lack of sleep and all). I got extra lucky with her being out of the house for the weekend and also that his son was out of town too.

So moving into Saturday night when he was coming over I was anxious and a little awkward with him. I didn't know where we stood. I wanted to give him time to think and respect his request for a breather. I think he thought I hadn't really given any thought as to why I thought we were "good" together. Why I thought we were a match. I mean we had just barely met right? But the amount of time we'd spend together, a good portion of it talking, had made me realize how many of my requirements he fits. So I decided that the only way I could explain why I thought we were a good match was to share my "relationship list" with him.

So we perusued my list on Saturday after we'd had homemade spaghetti and he agreed that yes he fit all of my requirements with a few variations on the "sex" one: "A man who is sexually compatible with me and is sexually adventurous with a desire for trying new things, including being with another girl or guy, a good kisser and loves giving and receiving oral sex." We had a conversation about that requirement and was the other guy/girl part mandatory, was a it a deal breaker, was it a bucket list kind of thing - I wouldn't feel satisfied with my life until I'd done it, etc? I explained it was a bucket list sort of item, and that he fit the rest of the requirement with no problems. We chatted more about that and I think reached an understanding that allowed him to move on from that issue.

So, long story short, I have a boyfriend. And I am a girlfriend. We're both shocked and surprised and a little scared about how quickly this moved to this stage. I simply wasn't expecting to find someone literally on date one. I mean, who does that happen to? Well, me, us, apparently : ). We agreed to remove our profiles from the web page we met at as a result.

So today we went to a local bar to watch soccer with a friend of his and while I was in the bathroom I was given the green light by the friend and D was told "she's a keeper, don't let her go."

I am a little (ok a lot) giddy over him and am really excited to see where this goes. I really enjoy my time with him and look forward to when I can be with him again. It's just so easy and relaxed and comfortable. He's a real gentleman and I am not used to that so when he does sweet things, it catches me off guard and makes me like him that much more.

Best of all, he makes me smile.
All the time.

This is my new favorite view with him, this isn't us, but, gets you the idea.

And I think this is his favorite view from last night, again, for illustration purposes only.

First Date

La Roux - Bulletproof

My first night of hitting the town as a single lady was last night. Roomie decided to take me to a local bar that she frequents and I was up for it. I have been corresponding with several people on the online dating site and I had several invitations for a date but I decided to stick with my BFF.

As the day progressed I checked my dating web page messages and exchanged a couple with someone I was intrigued by. We'll call him D. D was out with his friends and I let him know that we'd be heading to the bar later. He wished me good luck and mentioned he liked to 2 step. Because the dialogue we'd been having was great I invited him to meet us there and teach me how to 2 step. Roomie is a great dancer and she would very likely have danced with people regardless of if I had a partner or not. Which I am fine with. But I wasn't really looking forward to an entire evening of being the "newbie" at the bar and having to force my way through the maze of what I anticipated to be a lot of attention. (Hey, maybe I am just overly confident, but based on the responses I'd had from the dating site, I wouldn't be alone for most of the night.) So, I felt like inviting someone that I was already interested in and had things in common with would be a good way to ease into this game called dating.

So because this was the first time in over 15 years I was going to be on a date, I had a little cranberry, orange juice and vodka as Roomie drove to the bar. I gave D a call to let him know where we were and we chatted a bit. He was funny and laughed at my jokes. Plus he had a great voice. I was a little tipsy from the amount of alcohol I'd already drank (did I mention I am total lightweight?) so I made a mental note to slow down. We arrived at the bar and he found me waiting while Roomie hit the bathroom. He was a complete gentleman, totally my type and had a great smile. He offered to hold Roomie's drink while we waited and ended up wandering towards the dance floor with it while I was waiting for Roomie. I gathered her up when she came out and we headed over to D. I introduced them and she immediately spotted an ex of hers that she was hoping wouldn't be there. I tried to give D the quick 1-2 and let him know we'd need to watch out for her and this guy. He did so for the rest of the night which I thought was really nice.

We danced a lot, he's a great dancer, great sense of humor about the fact that I was learning and very patient with me. We took some breaks and talked, we really seemed to be connecting. We had a few brief kisses. We ended up leaving the bar at the end of the night. Roomie was very protective, but not wanting to tell me what to do. She made me call her with his cell so she'd have his number. We drove around a bit looking for a place to stop and talk, neither of us was really hungry. We found a park, but apparently that was a bad idea. We started kissing a bit and shortly the police rolled by. They informed us this wasn't a good place to be (the park was closed) and we needed to move on.

He started driving to my place and we talked on the 30 minute drive. We covered a variety of topics and it was a really nice time. He commented several times that I was tempting. When we arrived home I invited him in because I knew Roomie was home. I changed, they chatted, and I rejoined them. He liked what I had changed into, short shorts and t shirt that I normally wear around the house. Roomie went to smoke and we headed to my room.

We had a lovely session of kissing which lead to an even nicer session of getting naked which led to a really great night of sex and talking and laughing and holding and touching and caressing. I told him that it was a perfect night because there was no pressure and he'd been really great on the dance floor. It made it much less stressful for me to enjoy my first night out and I also met a great guy.

We slept a bit when we realized it was getting light already. When we woke up we snuggled and had some pillow talk. Followed by some more sex. He was persistent in making sure that I came and it was a nice change. We got dressed to go down and have breakfast, I put on the same shorts and t shirt from the night before which he really liked. He got down on his knees and pulled my shorts down and had a little taste of my wet wet pussy. Yum, I love that kind of spontaneity.

We had a little bit of breakfast, chatted some more, and he left to do some volunteer work he does on Sunday's. I relayed to Roomie the highlights of the evening and was a little surprised to realize that I really liked him. I wasn't really expecting to find someone soon that I liked so much.

He sent me a quick text after he left:
Thxs again for a great evening of dancing, laughing at my awful jokes, getting chased by the police, making love and sharing who we are! ; )

I replied with:
Thank you! I felt safe with you and that meant a lot and helped me share things with you. I thoroughly enjoyed myself and that leaves me stumbling a little. I didn't expect that kind of connection so early on. You are upsetting my master plan of being "unavailable" and dating for awhile. I honestly am befuddled because I am a little smitten with you.

To which he said:
I like the word smitten. I feel that too.

So am kicking around the idea of just seeing him for a bit and trying it out for size. I am exhausted from not much sleep at this point and am headed to bed. All in all I am super pleased with how this week and weekend went. It's validated to me that others find me attractive and they find me interesting. Or at the least, I write a good dating profile.

Happiness

I know it's been awhile since I posted, but I have been busy (as you'll see). I promise to be more attentive.

The Ruby Suns, Closet Astrologer

I don't know if you know about the Amazon $5 albums or not, but this month WOW! what a selection. There are so many great albums that I'd love to have but budget constraints make me be picky. I mean where else can you get anything from The Beach Boys to Billy Idol to The Ting Tings for $5?!? Sheesh! Today's choices were: Life House and One Eskimo. But there were really so many I could have bought in a heart beat.

They also have a really varied selection of free music and a new download every day in both a single and an album. Yesterday I got Digital Bang: The 2010 Sub Pop album and am really enjoying it. Closet Astrologer is on it, but they aren't all like that. It's a good sample.
You can check out both the $5 albums and the free stuff here.
And no Amazon didn't pay me to say any of it. I am just a big fan of free and cheap music being the crazed music junkie that I am.

So, I got divorced on Tuesday. Yup, the big D! It was strangely anti-climatic and my ex (ooooo first use of that!) even commented on that. Which is great, the less drama the better. It was likely the most amicable and inexpensive divorce ever. Hopefully it will continue to be the same. I have already gotten a profile on a dating web page. Since I have face shots I may not share the location... BUT! I am looking forward to lots of fun. Already had the booty call at midnight. I think a date is a good place to start : ). There's got to be chemistry, THEN we'll move to booty calls, ; ).

So with that being said, I think this is the perfect HNT photo for today:

The card is from a friend when she found out I was getting divorced. I have a great support system and am really grateful for it. I am surprised by how much I unconsciously played with my ring. I find my fingers reaching for it while I am walking or whatever and it's a subtle reminder of the change. And a great one : ). I do feel nekkid without it.

Everyone keeps asking how I feel, and what now? My response has been, I feel "available" and "dating" is what now. So, hopefully the stories will unfold. Being a huge reader, I am calling this the next chapter in my book and a prospect asked a great question: what is the title? So I came up with "My Turn: The Good I Deserve and the Happiness I Seek." Apparently my profile is already a little intimidating. Funny, I just don't see myself that way. I just know what I want and am not going to accept less at this point. I am glad when people are brave enough to push past that though.

Happy HNT and be sure to stop by Osbasso to see who else is playing!

Beach times 2

We headed to the lake today. We got a last minute invitation to help celebrate a friend's birthday so Roomie and I packed up at a cooler and off we went. I felt like a spoiled little snot when we pulled up and it was mucky brown water that made me feel dirty to even get in it. The pristine beaches at San Carlos had heightened my expectations quite a bit. lol. Roomie reminded me that this is how lakes are and I realized that I hadn't really been to many lakes and when I had it was on her boat. Launching off a boat is entirely different than sloshing around from the "beach" which is really just dirt.  No pristine beautiful sand here. *sigh*

We saw the friends we had come to hook up with and thought they were making their way back to us. So we settled in to the "beach" and waited until they got there. Roomie and I discussed what my dating profile would contain (did I mention I am getting divorced in 2 days?) and that was fun. Eventually our friends made their way back over to us and we hopped into their canoes to another part of the lake. We found a more secluded area which actually turned the day around and made it a lot of fun. We just hung out in the water all day and chilled. They convinced me to drink a beer (I never acquired the taste) and took a few sips and remembered why I really just don't like it. Blech.

We ended up with dinner (home made pizza) at a town near by and then home again. All in all, a lovely fun day that was casual and relaxing. So nice to just be unencumbered by a time line or responsibilities.

I am very much looking forward to my court date on Tuesday. I need to make sure all my documents are in order tomorrow and then I'll be good to go. I'll keep ya posted.

Oddly, no music or photos today, just me and my words. Time for some blogs then bed.
Nite for now!

Half-Nekkid Thursday

I enjoyed my time in San Carlos and had some fun thinking of some half-nekid ideas. Here's the first I took of my view at the private beach we discovered. Enjoy!